FEAR IS CUMULATIVE. THE ORIGIN OF YOUR FEAR IS DIFFICULT TO IDENTIFY. AS A RESULT YOU MIGHT FEEL OVERWHELMED, RESENTFUL, ANGRY, SAD, THREATENED, HELPLESS, WORTHLESS, REJECTED, ETC. WITH EFFECTIVE TOOLS AND PRACTICE, YOU CAN LEARN TO RECOGNIZE, MANAGE AND MOVE THROUGH THE FEAR AND THE FEELINGS. IGNORING AND DENYING THEM WILL NOT GET YOU TO THE OTHER SIDE OF THEM.
Right from the first time I talked to Wendy, she told me that the anxiety in the pit of my stomach was fear. I really got that fear is just a feeling that I can manage. Once I could put that fear in its place, it felt like a huge weight was lifted. That horrible feeling didn’t have to consume me anymore. I don’t know how to thank you enough, Wendy. -Sarah S.
Below is a very general outline of steps and processes proven to shift your perspective by changing the way you choose to respond to fear.
Before moving in any direction you have to know where you are now. It is easy to be so attached to your thoughts and feelings that you are convinced that they are your truth. No so.
Together we get to wade through the muck, really look at your destructive thoughts and feelings, decipher what is fact and what you’re making up, and find the reality of now.
Feelings are part of the human experience. Thank goodness. Learn specific methods for recognizing, allowing, moving through and letting go of the feelings that keep you stuck.
Is anything bad happening RIGHT NOW? Are you stuck in the past that no longer exists or are you worried about a future that is only in your mind?
Step out of your COMFORT ZONE and little by little, with my support and encouragement, put that toe in the water and make new choices in your life.
Learn specific skills and tools that are proven to change lives.
Identify those people, groups and organizations in your life that anchor you as you want to be.
With commitment and repetition, simple exercises become a part of your natural behavior. You will notice when “old stuff” comes up and slip seamlessly into new, esteem-building behaviors.
Identify your dreams, decide how you want to be in the world on a daily basis and hold your head high as you befriend fear and use it as an indicator of the moment, not as a tyrant of your life.
Commit to actions, based on your goals and intentions. When you hold yourself accountable, you become proud of yourself, which builds your belief in yourself, which makes you more accountable to be the person you choose.
...has a purpose in our lives. It will never disappear altogether. You don’t want it too. It protects you when necessary, teaches you about your current situation and serves as a barometer for how you are progressing towards your desired dreams.
I have benefited and grown more from this program and my relationship with Wendy than I ever did in 15 years of medication, therapy and hospitalizations.
Wendy always knows the right questions to ask. Over and over she has helped me get clear about what is really important and what steps I can take to reach my goals. She has saved my life.
I really feel that Wendy is present with me in our sessions. I love that she has been an ‘action’ person to me.
Everything happens at once. While I was going through a divorce, my mother died. I had been taking care of her and when she passed, I felt so empty. Wendy helped me to understand that everything I was going through was OK. She supported me, taught me what I needed to know and encouraged me to take my time to get through it.
I have never been so scared as when my doctor told me I had breast cancer. Wendy helped me get through the toughest times and make the right decisions for me. I really got how important ‘present moment’ is. Wendy encouraged me to let people in and I had the best support from friends, family and my community. I am so grateful.
Wendy’s telephone series on body image gave me the support and confidence I needed to look at my body in the mirror with love and compassion. Thank you, Wendy!
I was always hesitant to talk about the ‘crazy” thoughts rolling through my head about my body and food, until I met Wendy. Wendy gets it!
Wendy is helping me find myself, find my way, and become who I am meant to be.
Right from the first time I talked to Wendy, she told me that the anxiety in the pit of my stomach was fear. I really got that fear is just a feeling that I can manage. Once I could put that fear in its place, it felt like a huge weight was lifted. That horrible feeling didn’t have to consume me anymore. I don’t know how to thank you enough, Wendy.
Wendy Perkins combines humility, compassion and wisdom in her style of coaching. Actually, it’s much more than a style. It’s an authentic way of presenting herself, which makes me feel engaged where I am, loved as I am, and invited to grow into my possibilities.