Overcoming Fear with Life Coaching | Wendy Perkins
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FEAR, FRIEND OR FOE?

FEAR is just a feeling, coming from a thought or situation. Fear is meant to protect you from real threats in your surroundings.  However, fear can cause you to run away and retreat back into your comfort zone, often preventing you from acting on opportunities in your life.

The origin of your fear is difficult to identify. The presenting “negative” situation usually triggers the same feelings that are part of your past; therefore, intensifying or building on your perspective of what is going on now.

FEAR IS CUMULATIVE. THE ORIGIN OF YOUR FEAR IS DIFFICULT TO IDENTIFY. AS A RESULT YOU MIGHT FEEL OVERWHELMED, RESENTFUL, ANGRY, SAD, THREATENED, HELPLESS, WORTHLESS, REJECTED, ETC.  WITH EFFECTIVE TOOLS AND PRACTICE, YOU CAN LEARN TO RECOGNIZE, MANAGE AND MOVE THROUGH THE FEAR AND THE FEELINGS. IGNORING AND DENYING THEM WILL NOT GET YOU TO THE OTHER SIDE OF THEM.

Right from the first time I talked to Wendy, she told me that the anxiety in the pit of my stomach was fear. I really got that fear is just a feeling that I can manage. Once I could put that fear in its place, it felt like a huge weight was lifted. That horrible feeling didn’t have to consume me anymore. I don’t know how to thank you enough, Wendy. -Sarah S.
HOW DO I OVERCOME FEAR?

Below is a very general outline of steps and processes proven to shift your perspective by changing the way you choose to respond to fear.

AWARENESS

Before moving in any direction you have to know where you are now. It is easy to be so attached to your thoughts and feelings that you are convinced that they are your truth. No so.

UNRAVEL THAT THINKING

Together we get to wade through the muck, really look at your destructive thoughts and feelings, decipher what is fact and what you’re making up, and find the reality of now.

PROCESS YOUR FEELINGS

Feelings are part of the human experience. Thank goodness. Learn specific methods for recognizing, allowing, moving through and letting go of the feelings that keep you stuck.

PRESENT MOMENT

Is anything bad happening RIGHT NOW? Are you stuck in the past that no longer exists or are you worried about a future that is only in your mind?

RISK

Step out of your COMFORT ZONE and little by little, with my support and encouragement, put that toe in the water and make new choices in your life.

TOOLS

Learn specific skills and tools that are proven to change lives.

SUPPORT SYSTEMS

Identify those people, groups and organizations in your life that anchor you as you want to be.

PRACTICE

With commitment and repetition, simple exercises become a part of your natural behavior. You will notice when “old stuff” comes up and slip seamlessly into new, esteem-building behaviors.

GOALS AND INTENTIONS

Identify your dreams, decide how you want to be in the world on a daily basis and hold your head high as you befriend fear and use it as an indicator of the moment, not as a tyrant of your life.

ACTION STEPS

Commit to actions, based on your goals and intentions. When you hold yourself accountable, you become proud of yourself, which builds your belief in yourself, which makes you more accountable to be the person you choose.

FEAR

...has a purpose in our lives. It will never disappear altogether. You don’t want it too. It protects you when necessary, teaches you about your current situation and serves as a barometer for how you are progressing towards your desired dreams.

Do you want to learn when fear is getting the upper hand and how you can outsmart it?

WHAT KINDS OF THINGS DO PEOPLE FEAR?


 

  • PAIN, emotional and physical
  • The UNKNOWN
  • REJECTION
  • Loss of FREEDOM and CONTROL
  • DISAPPOINTMENT of self and others
  • FAILURE
  • LONLINESS
  • BEING MADE FUN OF
  • And, of course, many more

WHAT ARE THE RESULTS OF THIS UNMANAGED FEAR?


 

You might:

  • be verbally abusive to yourself or others
  • be a people-pleaser and not even know what is true for you
  • act out with unhealthy behaviors
  • compare yourself to others
  • have real physical symptoms, like headaches or high blood pressure
  • choose isolation because the fear of rejection is too great